When many boys have a crush on a girl, the first thing they think of is to quickly confirm the girl’s true thoughts through confession. It is best to confirm the relationship between you, for fear of being accidentally snatched away.
What’s more, you can find some friends, buy some flowers and candles, and carefully plan a sensational confession event. However, in most cases, the girl is very moved and finally rejects it ruthlessly.
What I want to say about this kind of thing is: Confession is stupid behavior, yes! That’s right!
Seeing this, I know that some people will have objections, saying that I am too extreme and that what I said is too absolute. There may be many people who will say that it is through my confession that I moved the girl.
OK, I won’t explain too much about this, you just need to remember:
Don’t confess easily. Don’t confess without being 99.99% sure!
In fact, most of the reasons why confession fails is because it makes you always think that confession will give you a chance. Now I want to tell you that this is the stupidest idea, and confession is the biggest taboo in the relationship between men and women, bar none!
It’s like you’ve seen someone say to a rabbit before hunting, rabbit, am I going to catch you? Some people even bought a large bouquet of flowers, placed a large heart shape under the girls’ dormitory building and confessed their love.
Isn’t this just like telling a rabbit: “Rabbit, I made a big trap to catch you!” Under normal circumstances, the rabbit will run, and while running, he will think: “This person must have a problem with his IQ.”
So it’s not a technical problem to confess your love, but a low IQ. The fault is that you confessed your love. If you don’t confess your love, how can a girl have any chance of rejecting you? It’s not that it’s impossible to confess, it’s just that you have to catch the rabbit in your hands first.
Just like a fan situation I encountered recently, the following is a fan’s self-report:
I like a female teacher who is one year older than me. A friend introduced me to her. I felt very comfortable when we first met. She is cute, has a sweet smile, and is intellectual. Others describe her as a cute and mature woman. She captured my heart right away. Later, I confessed my love to her through a WeChat chat, and gave her flowers when we met for the second time. During the two years of pursuing her, I wanted to give her the whole world. Constantly being rejected, constantly being given opportunities, I got up after five o’clock to make breakfast and went downstairs to her house to wait for her to take her to work. I asked my brothers from the previous group to light candles, burn fireworks, and send flowers to express my love on the beach. I bought an artificial snow machine for Valentine’s Day. It’s snowing, and bricks and stone earrings are given…
In the end, she told me: “I know you work hard, and I am very touched by what you did for me, but being touched does not mean love. I don’t see the shining point in you that attracts me.”
Slowly she began to alienate me. I moved heaven and earth, but I couldn’t move her. I was only moved by myself.
In fact, the above is a typical confession of love, and to be honest, it is not bad. There are many girls who will tell you at the very beginning when they receive your confession: “We are not suitable. I don’t want to fall in love now, we still want to be friends.” Bar.”
Then the relationship gradually begins to become awkward, or even indifferent to you, and meeting you becomes a problem, until the relationship comes to an end.
However, when many brothers encounter such a situation, they begin to feel at a loss, always feeling that they have not done enough, and then they continue to stalk, please, and risk their lives to express their determination: “I really like it.” Yours, I will definitely let you feel my strong love for you, I can’t wait to take out my heart and show it to you…”
Trying to persuade girls to agree to you, the reality is that they are rejected again and again, and your approach will only make girls feel great pressure, and in the end they may even reject you without caring about your dignity and face!
In the second case, you made a mistake in the way of expressing your love. Maybe you really feel that she has a crush on you. I also believe this is an objective reality. Then you muster up the courage to say to her: “I like you, okay.” Do you want to go on a date with me and be my girlfriend?”
In this case, I believe that most girls will reject you. This is like asking a girl, can I kiss you? can i sleep with you? It is simply a question to give you points. Even if she likes you, she should be more reserved and even start to test your sincerity. In the process, you might make a wrong move at some point and lose everything. !
So I want to tell you that premature confession will only create obstacles in your relationship. Confession is not a clarion call to launch a charge, but a bell ringing in victory. It is just a statement of ownership, not a way for you to get the girl. Way.
So how can you save the situation if your confession fails?
If you have believed what I said up to this point: “Confessing is stupid behavior”, next, I will tell you how to save the situation if confession fails!
The first situation: completely block you, and we will never have any contact with you until we die.
In this case, you must have done something that is outrageous, or else you are so outrageous that you have taken it upon yourself. In this situation, you have to learn to change a lot of things. You need to understand one thing. She just doesn’t like you as you are now. Even if you hang yourself, coerce, lure, and trick her into being with you, it will only be a matter of time before you break up. .
This process is very complicated, so I won’t explain it too much here. If you have such a situation, you are welcome to come to me.
The second situation: The confession is rejected, but there is still contact.
Step1: Adjust your mentality immediately.
Don’t express your feelings anymore, or even express your care and love excessively! Don’t ask me why, the only thing I can tell you is that time will make girls gradually forget your stupid operation, and continuing to do so will only make girls more embarrassed, feel pressured, and even continue to avoid you.
Step2: Cut off the awkward relationship with her.
After adjusting your mentality, the next thing to do is to end this awkward relationship and return to the previous friendship. First let yourself forget what you confessed to, and then let the girl forget. Let her feel as if you have given up and are no longer on guard against you.
You can even tell her in a relaxed tone: “Do you know when I started to like you?” The girl will definitely say she doesn’t know.
Then you say: “I still remember when I first saw you in the library that day, the sun shone on your face… It made me feel particularly want to get in touch with this girl, so during that time I I feel like I have become a different person. I feel uncomfortable chatting with you. Now that I have figured it out, I feel much more relaxed.
Step3: Start attracting her again.
First of all, the establishment of a love relationship is a process of mutual attraction. The focus is on the process, and this process happens naturally. Just like when we become friends with strangers, we slowly get to know each other through gradual communication and contact, and then become friends. You are a good friend who talks about everything. When did you tell someone that we should be friends, and then you immediately became good friends. It seems that only kindergarten can do this.
But one thing that comrades who confess their love to death need to pay attention to is that during this process, they must remember one thing: don’t let the eagle go before you see the rabbit. Because of your past stains, girls will definitely distrust you to some extent. In other words, some of your actions will most likely make her think that you do it just to chase her.
Step4: Enhance your relationship through dating.
The next step is to meet on a date. Through some reasonable methods, or meet at some interesting places, and then use some dating tips to subtly let the girl get used to your physical contact, and the girl will spontaneously recognize your relationship.
Regarding dating, the space is limited, so I will give you a little benefit.
To put it simply and crudely, at this age, you still confess your feelings, go out to watch a movie, hold hands if you want to stay with you until late at night, kiss if you want to hold hands, and figure out the rest by yourself.